Warning! You might get offended.
Extra extra, read all about it!!
Crystal is going to tell it how it is!
And ya'll might get offended!
Tag Line: I don't really care!
Here it goes. This isn't the first time I've had responses like this when I post anything about being a single mom. As you probably can tell by now, I am a very light hearted person who laughs at the situations I can get myself into. So I posted my Single mom Problems on Facebook. Because it's true! It was just talking about my daily struggles but in a fun way.
Well somehow it offended someone.
"That's a parent problem. not just a single parent problem."
The post continued on about how this person couldn't move either if they had to go to the bathroom because moving them to another parent would wake the child up.
Pardon my reaction but ...
YOU JUST SAID THAT YOU HAVE ANOTHER PARTNER TO BALANCE YOUR PARENTING PROBLEMS WITH BUT SOMEHOW GOT OFFENDED ABOUT ME SAYING SINGLE MOM PROBLEMS.
Seriously. I get it. Kiddo's are tough. It was my choices that got me pregnant. It was my choice to keep the baby. My choices lead me to being a single mom.
And I get it. Maybe that annoys people who lived life on typical storybook level of Dating, marriage and baby to listen to another person who is a single parent talking about their experiences in that world..
So here is where I am at.
I think it is important to share the other story. The story of a strong mom who thought she met prince charming, but only found a poisoned apple in the end.
Who in all others eyes failed.
But in her eyes, saw a new story.
And wrote it without fearing of hurting other peoples feelings.
I understand where my married friends who have made comments like these are coming from. Being a parent is one heck of a crazy road! However, what these comments forget to realize is that.
You have someone to pass a child off to when you need to use the restroom.
You have someone who can help balance daycare costs and schedules with for work.
You have someone bringing in a second income to provide food and living costs.
You have someone who can help.
End. Of. Story.
And I am so thankful that you do have that. I would prefer that too! I wish I could have had that, but I am also thankful for this little one who has changed my life. I wouldn't change it for anything.
But we need to recognize that single parenting and married parenting is indeed different. Probably harder on some levels with marriage and easier on other levels. I'll one day find out.
So single moms and dads out there. Yep. If you are open and honest about your life, even in a light hearted way. Somehow, you'll probably offend people. It doesn't make sense to me. I believe we should lift up every parent in every stage.
And I am here, sharing my story publicly to make aware what single mom life is. To be raw in the moments. And when I'm dating, I'll share that! And when I'm married, I'll share THAT lol!
If you come across comments like these as a single parent, just know you ARE understood by people. And there isn't much reasoning or benefit to debating your opinion on a facebook status. I still find this person's reaction hurtful. And others hurtful.
But I don't let it affect telling the truth about how my life is, my experiences through it. This is one of those blogs that is raw and truthful about my experiences as a single mom.
Though somehow sharing my experiences might offend others. I'll never stop sharing.
Because I am a DANNNNG good single Mamma, who is Proud of who I am, no matter what others think!
Don't let others define you, you define yourself. I am living proof of that.
Stay blessed, and brush off the dust thats bound to fall on you. Because you are strong, amazing, and a DANNNNG good parent, no matter what stage of life you're in!